How a global pandemic reshaped this lifelong minimalist’s views of his city, home and life

Now and then, we feature the journey of one of our readers. And today, it’s Verne’s turn.

Verne and I first connected after he checked out our list of Life-Changing Podcasts for Aspiring Minimalists. We’ve covered other topics since then, too… the latest being financial literacy in young people and teaching people about financial independence—which, it turns out, is close to both our hearts.

Anyhow, Verne’s journey is very different from most and worth sharing with the rest of you. Thank you, Verne, for agreeing to this interview.

MJ: Before we jump into more specific questions… please tell us a bit about yourself

Verne: Hi, my name is Verne. I was born in the USA in the 1960s and grew up in New Jersey. I now live in Barcelona with my family and our cat Jack (a stray cat that adopted us).

MJ: And you speak a few languages too, don’t you?

Verne: Yes. I live in Barcelona, the capital of the region of Catalonia in Spain. I speak Spanish and Catalan. I’ve been commuting to and from work for the past four years to study Portuguese.

MJ: What brought you to our website, and why were/are you interested in it?

Verne: Finding your website was fortuitous. I was looking to learn about minimalism. As an old-school marketing professional, I also wanted to deepen my understanding of why consumerist behaviour(ism) exists (in the first place).

I struggle with minimalism, intentional buying, and simple living. How can a purchase not be deliberate? Even my son is baffled that someone would buy something with no (worthwhile) reason to buy it.

You are located on the other side of the world (to me), but I continue to find interesting topics, and I keep thinking: These are friendly people with whom I can exchange my thoughts.

MJ: These are kind words… thank you. What does minimalism mean to you?

Verne: Well, as you mentioned in your intro, my story might be a bit different than other people’s. I discovered that I’ve always been a minimalist – without knowing it.

To me, minimalism is a commonsense way of living that was (probably) common practice before the age of consumerism. It was how I was brought up and how most people I grew up with lived in my town.

When my Northern European ancestors migrated, they took their beliefs with them and passed them down to the next generation. My parents saw education as a means to achieve greater prosperity and become financially independent rather than to keep up with the Joneses. My mother, who was raised in the mountains until she was nine, taught me to save and avoid debt. She would set up a rainy day/emergency envelopes in case an appliance broke.

As a child, my bedroom had a captain’s bed, a desk with a chair, a mirror, and a closet. I remember one poster on the wall. My room had a window. I could see the lake and hear the wind. Growing up, I spent a lot of time outdoors. Nature had cycles to watch; birds visited the feeder; sports had seasons…

I would help with the chores, and when I was 14, I began taking care of all the outdoor chores and learning from my mother all the homemaking skills (sewing, cooking, etc.).

My friends growing up were like me. We shared things… bikes and baseball gloves. No one ever felt poor. Instead we all felt fortunate, and we always had a good time together.

I first came to Spain to study in 1983 and returned for an MBA two years later – with only a suitcase. I had cleaned out my home in the States (it took me a day), giving away most things to friends or selling them. I did have a box of keepsakes, which I brought to Spain later.

I have never had a six-figure salary but live a comfortable life.

Verne: With that in mind, can I ask you a question in return?

MJ: Sure. Fire away.

Verne: Why do you think people often buy things they will not use enough to make worthy purchases?

MJ: That’s an excellent question, Verne. And I often wonder how WE ever bought stuff we usually didn’t need or use (enough).

There are two explanations I can think of straight away:

Firstly, there is the Keeping up with the Joneses mentality. In the past, we’d do what others did without questioning it. Paul, for example, bought a car even though he lived in inner-city Sydney with good public transport – just because that’s what his peers did (and maybe because he wanted to impress the ladies a bit, too ;-).

Another reason is Lifestyle Creep. When we lead busier lives and earn well, we tend to be less conscious about our purchasing decisions. For example, I’d see a book that sounded interesting or was about a topic I wanted to learn more about. Did I make the time to read it? Nope. Over time, I’d accumulated two shelves full of books, and only about two-thirds of them I had read.

Other reasons that come to mind are just to fill the space (furniture, home décor) and clever advertising. For example, buying the food processor the commercial showed can do all sorts of things, but you really only use it for one—for which you could have gotten the less fancy/cheaper version (or just used your hands and some simple tools to achieve the same outcome).

There are probably other reasons why, but these come to mind immediately. They all boil down to not being conscious or present in our lives.

We used to live our lives on autopilot. These days, with (almost) any purchase, we ask ourselves: Is purchasing this necessary? And if it is, Do we need to buy it new (or would second-hand do just as good a job)?

Nowadays, we make conscious decisions based on our values. We research before we buy to ensure it meets our needs and is made ethically and sustainably.

Having restrictions like our carry-on luggage (space) and our budget (financial) is also very useful.

MJ: Speaking of personal values… Can you tell us what your core values and beliefs are?

Verne: Wellness, caring, growth, resourcefulness, simplicity, balance, family and environmental awareness are most important to me, as is making a difference through service contributions.

MJ: How do you experience them in your life, and how have they changed over the years (if at all)?

Verne: I am more aware of my values when making decisions now than ten years ago. My values have evolved, and I am sure they will continue to grow as I move through the next chapters of my life.

Right now, my values and beliefs help me unselfishly use my skills and experience to help others while allowing me to continue to grow myself.

MJ: How has COVID-19 impacted your values and life, and what changes have you made?

Verne: We were confined to our home and neighbourhood during the pandemic. And this confinement has impacted me twofold:

Firstly, I have always decluttered my things as time has passed, but being in our (149 square meters) apartment a lot more than normal, I realised I was surrounded by more stuff than I had thought. I felt overwhelmed by the things around me and the urge to go further. I prefer seeing countertops, and I enjoy space. Space gives me a feeling of comfort and relaxation.

I also cleaned out and organized our study, which no one wanted to use. It felt light and comfortable and was just a nice place to work in. Then suddenly, the rest of my family tried to use it, too. Even our cat liked to come and look out the study window.

I ended up working in the living room at a desk that we have there. I did the same thing drawer by drawer, and I have made a new home for myself. Little by little, with my family’s permission, I am uncluttering our living room.

Secondly, I discovered the numerous beautiful things I can experience close to home: activities with my family and neighbours – parks, walks and hikes, civic centres, art shows, cultural activities and neighbourhood organisations. All these fantastic events with interesting people I can walk to cost nothing or very little.

I discovered a place rich in history and architecture that I had known existed but had never really stopped to appreciate it.

For example, I volunteered in an event called 48h Open House Barcelona, a free two-day event that promotes the city’s unique architectural heritage (giving access to buildings that are not usually accessible to the general public). I worked at Pavellons Güell on day 1 and Casa Grases on day 2. Both are in our neighbourhood.

MJ: What did you do with the things you decluttered?

Verne: Videos, cables, children’s books, etc., have gone to the small recycling centre in our neighbourhood, a public school or families with younger children. The recycling centre not only collects clothes and toys for charities. Taking things there even earns me a discount on our water delivery tax.

MJ: And how have your changes influenced those around you?

Verne: I think they value their health much more. They also find and value the small things daily and feel grateful for them.

I’ve always preferred experiences and doing things rather than having things. Last summer, we all began to feel that experiences are nicer than things. We had a great summer, hiking and eating together. We have become closer as a family and find greater contentment and entertainment when together. We laugh more.

MJ: That sounds lovely. What’s next for you?

Verne: I look forward to continuing my journey, learning about other perspectives and helping people.

Thank you, Verne, for sharing your story. All the best to you and your family.

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